In the bestselling They F*** You Up, leading clinical child psychologist Oliver James showed that it is the way we were cared for in the first six years of life that has a crucial effect on who we are and how we behave. Now, James is ready to offer practical strategies and techniques to ensure, as parents, we don't f*** up our children.Working on the premise that the needs of small children must be met if they are to grow up mentally healthy and self-motivated, How Not to F*** Them Up shows that parents need to analyse what happened to them in their own childhood in order to relate well to their baby.By identifying three basic types of parent - The Hugger (stays at home as much as possible in the baby's early years), The Scheduler (gets the baby into a routine early on and returns to work full-time) and The Pragmatist (a mixture of the two) - and highlighting the potential problems that go with each one, Oliver James offers practical strategies for parents to enable them to change their innate behaviour and raise their child in the best possible way.